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Playing the Field

Journal Entry: Wed Apr 23, 2008, 4:59 PM
  • Mood: Relief
Well, everyone, after many weeks of deliberation and tons of emotional distress, my boyfriend and I have reached a decision - together. We've amicably decided to separate for a while, likely six months to a year. We'll be living apart and dating as much as possible. Neither of us have really had a relationship prior to ours, nor have we had much experience in romance or dating, so we haven't really bee able to make decisions in our own relationship based on anything other than our perception of what we think to be out there.

We're both confident and happy with the decision we've made, and while we're still nervous about it, we know it's for the best. In six months to a year, we'll reconvene and see where we are from there. We may want to get back together, and we may not. It's a huge weight off our shoulders. I think if it were going to work itself out, this is the best way it could have done so.

We're also both going to remain friends, which is something we were worried wouldn't happen. My initial fear (confirmed by him at first) is that he would find it too hard to see me without being with me, and I was afraid if we broke up, I would lose him completely. It felt like an all-or-nothing situation, which is why I was hanging in limbo for so long. But now, he thinks he can remain strong enough to still hang out with me and be a close
friend. We'll still depend on each other just as we had before, only we just won't be in a relationship together.

Of course there are going to be moments of fear for both of us where we'll get scared and want to say, "Never mind, let's just stay together," but we both know this is something we just have to do. It's going to be very good for us both, and we know it.

Anyway, hopefully we're both going to be on the road to recovery. Knowing that we can still hang out and that we might get back together later on in life really helps. Now maybe I can focus more on getting over this sickness that I haven't been able to shake the past three weeks. I finally feel relieved, from everything.

Thanks to every one of you for being here! I love you all! Happiness and success!

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~RICEA42991:iconRICEA42991: Apr 23, 2008, 6:22:06 PM Mood: Hope
So Glad you both are trying to work something out I hope it goes well for you too
~LovelyLocks:iconLovelyLocks: Apr 23, 2008, 11:46:02 PM
Wow... that's a huge decision you two have reached Cheska. I hope everything works out amazingly well for you both, wether you end up together or not. But please, if you need to talk or anything, I'll be here.

Stay strong Cheska and have lots of fun as a single hottie~! :3

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*chesney:iconchesney: Apr 24, 2008, 7:08:11 AM
Ha, thanks. It's gonna be so strange being back in the single mindset again...

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*chesney:iconchesney: Apr 24, 2008, 7:08:24 AM
Thanks :) Hopefully this will be for the best!

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Chinese definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
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~Neverelleum:iconNeverelleum: Apr 24, 2008, 10:21:08 AM
You have quite a big responsibility to yourself now. When I got back to being single I made sure that the next time I would be able to support myself before I could support anyone else. Gotta be a shoulder to lean on you know? Ah, but you seem to go about it the right way and hope all the best in your decision.
*chesney:iconchesney: Apr 24, 2008, 11:42:18 AM
Thank you very much... We're both experiencing an odd myriad of emotions right now, most of them comflicting. Despite our fears, we know this is the right choice. And it's not goodbye forever...

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Chinese definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Programmer's definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and getting different results.
~LovelyLocks:iconLovelyLocks: Apr 24, 2008, 2:21:08 PM
I'm sure it will be very different... but fun! :3 I have a friend who's attatched and she was just saying the other day, that although she loves her man, she misses the freedoms so badly.

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Can we please watch the "Swin Pronzs"?

"Fuck me, I love Keats. There once was a young woman from Ealing, Who had a particular feeling. She lay on her back, And opened her crack, And pissed all over the ceiling!" ~ Daniel Cleaver
*chesney:iconchesney: Apr 24, 2008, 5:25:21 PM
Yes, there are pros and cons either way. At least this will give us a chance to step back and re-evaluate some things... o_O; It is kind of exciting to date again, but I do love Rob so so much. It's hard as hell!

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Chinese definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Programmer's definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and getting different results.
~LovelyLocks:iconLovelyLocks: Apr 25, 2008, 3:50:59 AM
man... the situation sounds more complex than I had thought... :(
just hang in there buddy!! surely something will turn out fantastic eventually!! :3

best of luck and happiness Cheska~~ :3

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Can we please watch the "Swin Pronzs"?

"Fuck me, I love Keats. There once was a young woman from Ealing, Who had a particular feeling. She lay on her back, And opened her crack, And pissed all over the ceiling!" ~ Daniel Cleaver