I'm talking about the kind of person who rarely expresses interest in anything other than their own problems and why their life sucks. The kind of person who never asks how you are, and responds with, "well..." and a myriad of unpleasant circumstances when you ask how they are. The kind of person who does nothing but complain about how bad they have it, and how unfair it is because no one else seems to have it as bad. The kind of person who has a new and different problem each time you talk to them. The kind of person who shoots down all your suggestions for improving their situation without even thinking about the advice you offered. The kind of person who manages to make everything you say take a negative turn. The kind of person who doesn't even realize that they do this.
It does get tiresome to constantly lend support or even just an empathetic ear. I have had to distance myself several times from people who were once good friends because of the spiraling negativity they continued to put into my life. After many years of trying to help these types and frustratingly banging my head against a wall, I have to give up and move on. I do not think these types want help. I'm baffled as to what they do want, though.
I largely believe life is what you make it, and if you surround yourself with good things and people, it will affect you for the better. Conversely, if you surround yourself in negativity or specifically filter for negative things, you're going to be living in a self-created hell. This is why it is crucial to distance oneself from such people after it is obvious they are not going to change their mindset.
On a happy note, who is looking forward to Halloween? It's one of my absolute favorite holidays. I can't wait!
I LOVE carving pumpkins. Sometimes, I even make my own carving patterns.
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Keyword: halloween
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NEW POLL!
What is your favorite holiday?
New Year's
Valentine's Day
St. Patrick's Day
Independence Day
Halloween
Thanksgiving
Christmas/Equivalent
My birthday!
Okay, so it's not a holiday, but it's still my favorite.A holiday not listed here
For me, it's a toss-up between Halloween and Christmas. I love them both pretty equally. I guess for now, I will choose Halloween because it's closer.
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